Saying Goodbye to Superwoman

Ladies, it's time to take the cape off and say goodbye to the weight and stress of trying to be everything to everybody. Read on for six ways to slay superwoman stress once and for all.

1. Embrace "Oh Well"

Women are notorious for juggling lots of priorities and responsibilities and making it look easy, I believe this was one of God's gifts to us. However, just like any good juggler we have to realize that when there are multiple balls in the air there is at least one that is still in the juggler's hand. Sometimes when you are killing it in a few areas you may not be able to give other areas the same amount of energy as when you were focusing on that alone. When you are proud of yourself for having a healthy week of eating and working out, while crushing the big presentation at work, and finding moments throughout the week to spend quality time with your kids and husband it is more likely than not that you wake up at the end of the week and realize that the house is a hot mess and you never texted your friend back 5 days ago. No one can do it all. Learn to embrace and even say "oh well" out loud in these moments. Your friend will live, if they know and love you they will understand, and what's the fun in a spotless house anyway?!

2. Delegate

"If I want it done right I have to do it all myself". "If I don't do it no one else will". "It'll just be easier on everyone else if I just take it on". What if I told you that it would get figured out without you? Sometimes we feel like we live in a pressure cooker because we keep climbing into it and snapping the lid on. Times when we could pass on the extra assignment or work, we willfully take it on for a pat on the back and "a good job". Delegation is not a sign of weakness it is actually a sign of strength, and it gives others the opportunity to shine. Think about areas in your life where you could begin to delegate: Hiring a cleaning service, buying a meal delivery subscription, getting your husband to do grocery pickup, giving your kids chores around the house. Every little bit helps, and will make your load a little lighter.

This doesn't mean there aren't situations and circumstances where you are literally the only one available to take care of it, but ask yourself "do I have to do this perfectly or is this a situation that calls for good enough"?

3. Remember That No Is A Complete Sentence

Sometimes the answer is just no, and that's that on that. When you seek to clarify and reclarify your responses/thought patterns over and over again you take up brain space and emotional energy that you could be putting towards yourself and your interests. It is not mean or harsh to say no to things that do not suit you. Beware of saying yes to keep others happy while starting a war within yourself.

4. Check In With Yourself Often

Did you actually want to go and have breakfast with them on Saturday morning after a hellish week at work or did you feel pressured to because you missed the last one? Now that you are at the restaurant sitting at the table forcing a smile because your mind is back on your couch under your blanket at home you have big regrets. Before committing yourself to ANYTHING check in with yourself to see how much you have left in the tank. You cannot pour from an empty well, even when your well is full reserve that for those closest to you, everyone else only gets the overflow.

5. Add Self-Care to Your To-Do List

Self-care is not a luxury reserved for reality show housewives and millionaires, we all need it. For some this could be a daily walk, for others it could be a weekly massage, whatever it is make room for it and hold the time sacred. To make it a daily habit, start small with just 30 minutes. This could be 30 minutes of exercise, reading, or just sitting in silence, it's your prerogative. A great trainer once told me that 30 minutes is only 5% of your day and if you can't give yourself 5% it might be time for you to reconsider your priorities. If you want to make it a weekly habit, consider making a recurrent appointment at a hair or nail salon, or blocking off Saturday morning to catch up on your favorite shows in bed while the kids play their IPads or go to grab breakfast with dad. You deserve time to decompress, and everyone around you will be better because of it.

6. Get Spiritually Centered

Starting a new devotional, creating time and space for prayer/mediation, or beginning a new bible plan are small ways to become more spiritually centered when the world around you feels too heavy. When you are playing Superwoman it is so easy to become untethered and not even realize it until it feels like everything is crashing down around you. When you really think about it what is going to serve you better, reading a nightly devotional on peace or scrolling through another dozen posts on social media? Carve out the time to be intentional about your spiritual connection, it matters.

There you have it - six ways to move towards balance and away from the stress of doing it all!

If this post reaches just one woman and helps her to release the weight of being everything to everybody my work here is done. You are strong, capable, and worthy of the very best.

Cheering you on as you release Superwoman!

Tiffany